Isn’t that the old saying? Keep calm and carry on? It has been my mantra for a long time. But sometimes, I can’t keep calm or carry on.
I am a pretty even keel person. I can usually take situations, digest them and find a solution in a calm matter. However, I have been known to blow off steam with a high-velocity enthusiasm. But all in all, I think of myself as even keel.
There is always that one person who can get under my skin like no other. I am always nice to him, treat him with respect and courtesy. He is one of these people that love to point out any mistake you have made or not have made. According to his own way of thinking, he projects these thoughts and suggestions without really seeing the whole picture or my understandings.
My poor husband is getting tired of hearing about it. So I vent to my husband, say a prayer, and carry on after having had a big ol’ come to Jesus conversation with this person in my head.
It isn’t worth the frustration to deal with him. He isn’t going to change. I listen to his suggestions, then do it my way.
There will always be people in our lives that get under our skin and make us lose our religion. It takes me a very long time to get mad, but once I do, clear the room because I will go into an unknown tongue and have a good hissy fit for hours. I do not like myself when I get to that point. It just unnerves me that someone can push me to that point.
How do you deal with people like this in your lives? I would love some advice.
I hope to hear from you!
Until next time, be kind to others (that is kind of an oxymoron considering my post!) and yourself!
xoxo,
Cindy
Luke 6:27
And I thought I was alone when I let an individual push me to that point. There is a person in my life that always has a comment about everything. Nothing is as good as he can do it or does it. My husband gets so frustrated listening to me when I get my trigger tripped by this person. How many times have I heard “just let it go!” I can’t just do that. But then when I stop to think about it, he gets me riled up every time I’m around him. I’m the type that wants revenge but as my daughter tells me, “don’t stoop to his level, be the better person.” I know I’m suppose to turn it over to God, but I keep grabbing it back!! And then go back only to be insulted again and again…..and so the cycle goes. I really tell him off in my head, too!
I think a lot of us have people and situations like this in our lives. I have monologues going on I’m my head all the time about what I will say the next time, how things will be different in our next conversation, and on and on. It’s amazing when we stop and think about the amount of energy we waste thinking about an dealing with people who rub us the wrong way.
If you can sit down with this person to lay everything on the table, that may be a good starting point. If you can’t somehow meet in the middle maybe you both have to decide to throw in the towel. That may be hard if it’s a relative but you don’t have to draw attention to whatever you choose to do.
Wishing you all the best, Cindy. Again, we’re so much alike. When I’m ready to blow my smokestack, the room clears out!!😂